Comments on Hard Boiled: A Donor Egg Blog: I want to be overweight!

No arguments, Anon -- I am definitely still eating...

2010-10-04T12:38:30.094-04:00

No arguments, Anon -- I am definitely still eating disordered. I weigh more now than I did two-some years ago when I wrote that post *sigh* Funny you commented just now, because just this morning I got up early and got on the treadmill for the first time in years. I need to get the weight off, it's a health issue now. Wish me not just luck, but also determination.

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I am a first tim...

2010-10-02T00:46:13.188-04:00

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I am a first time visitor to your site so I feel i must get straight to the point with no sugarcoating it.... I think you are still eating disordered, having morphed from anorexia to bulimia and now to overeating. Plus you are hard on yourself and that's pretty much a clue. I mean, unless you have been through 7 years of active recovery with a team who dismissed you as physically, mentally and emotionally healthy, then that pretty much assures you that you have an eating disorder. Anorexia, bulimia, Edn-os, compulsive overeating and binge eating are mental illnesses that you can't snap out of or grow out of. You have to actively work hard through an eating disorder recovery In order to get recovered.

Think about it. Go to http://something-fishy.org and take the questionnaire.

Be well. God bless.

I am only a lurker, interested in trying DE to con...

2007-02-03T15:23:00.000-05:00

I am only a lurker, interested in trying DE to concieve. I am mom to 2 boys who are special needs (because of my genes). Please don't blame yourself for Maddy's Spina Bifida. Just because a study says there may be a link doesn't mean there is one. You can do everything right and have a sick baby & you can do everything wrong and have a perfect one. I wish I could reach thru and hug you. I too have been the hurting mom. Lose the weight for you & to have energy for Maddy. Sincerely-Sarah

Bee, I've just found your website. First of all, d...

2006-09-19T12:24:00.000-04:00

Bee, I've just found your website. First of all, don't beat yourself up over the weight - slow and steady wins the race. I have PCOS and am having some success with the South Beach diet.

I also wonder if you would be willing to be interviewed for my Fertility News newsletter that goes out to my coaching clients. I am doing a series of interviews with women and I would love to iterview you about the decision to use donor eggs. You would have final say over the interview before it is published. To learn more, go to http://www.fionayoungbrown.com/Fertility%20Coaching.htm

I look forward to hearing from you and good luck!

Fiona

Hi -

I'm usually just a lurker but I wante...

2006-08-23T22:03:00.000-04:00

Hi -

I'm usually just a lurker but I wanted to say congratulations on your beautiful daughter.

I too have struggled with my weight for years (history of eating disorders the whole bit). I have had really great luck with the South Beach diet. It isn't low carb (it it does limit higher GI and processed carbs) but it is particularly good for someone who has had blood sugar issues in the past and the goal is to make you feel satisfied rather than deprived. I have heard good things about the WW core plan which is very similar. I am a lacto-ovo vegetarian and have been doing really well on it so far and have no desire at all to quit like I have on other plans.

This support board is really good as well if you need some primers or guidance getting started.
http://www.southbeach-diet-plan.com/forum/index.php

Sorry I hate to sound like an advertisement but it is really the first plan that has ever worked for me and it has really transformed my relationship with food in a good way. The weight loss has been slow for me (as any sustainable weight loss should be unfortunately) but I feel truely healthy and good for the first time in a long time.

I'm sorry you are having a rough time right now. I hope you are feeling better soon so you can focus on enjoying that sweet girl of yours. Hang in there.

Delurking to say please try not to beat yourself u...

2006-06-14T16:59:00.000-04:00

Delurking to say please try not to beat yourself up. You are NOT a bad mother! You love Madelyn with your whole heart and continue to advocate for her through all the medical stuff she has to deal with. How would she be better off without you? That's nuts. Clueless is right, studies change all the time. Put your baby to sleep on its stomach, no wait, on its back. Remember that one?

And I know what it's like to want the quick weight loss, but in my experience it will come back unless you find something that you can do forever, something simple like stop eating crap and move your body a little bit every day. Of course, that is JMO. I'm back at WW for the third time (sigh) but I'm now down 21 lbs since Valentine's Day. I'm finally content to let it be slowly but surely.

I'm sorry you're feeling so bad, I hope things look up soon for you. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

Please don't torture yourself. Studies are not al...

2006-06-11T16:58:00.000-04:00

Please don't torture yourself. Studies are not always correct. Look at the birth control studies, first they were horribly dangerous, then they were not, then...We can only do the best we can with what we know now. Tomorrow something else will turn out to be dangerous. Hang in there.

From a mom of a daughter who has a syndrome, and w...

2006-06-04T00:36:00.000-04:00

From a mom of a daughter who has a syndrome, and who I know 1. that I will have to bury one day and 2. that the reason she has this syndrome is that I carry a recessive gene for it, I can relate to your words.
I am two years further down the road than you, and let me express how little blame will do for you. As unwittingly as I passed an unknown, recessive gene, ANY part you MAY have played in your daughters condition is n.o.t. y.o.u.r. f.a.u.l.t.
Please, you have to get to where you believe this.
Let me also tell you that putting this on yourself, will depress you and make you less of the mom that that baby deserves, because your heart will be so heavy with grief.
Not only that, but how do you expect to do something wonderful for yourself like weightloss and healthy living if you carry this guilt around in your heart that you carelessly damaged your child?? It won't work.
You didn't do this. You didn't do it.
It's not your fault.
It isn't my fault that chance fell the way it did and my daughter is sick and suffers, will suffer, I will have to watch her die and suffer.
Even though it's been proven it came from my body, it's not my fault.
I had to get this too, and when I finally did.....THEN I could mother my daughter. I could really be present for her then in ways that I know will mean less regret later.
Sorry this got so long, and sorry if it's preachy. Your words effected me and I felt compelled to respond.
Prayers and Best Wishes

You have so much on your plate right now. You hav...

2006-06-03T20:54:00.000-04:00

You have so much on your plate right now. You have to give yourself a break. Beating yourself up right now helps no one, especially you. You have to go with intent. You did your best. You are not perfect, no one is. Forgive yourself, for Maddy, so that she can have a Mom who loves herself.

Lurker here. One to one-and-a-half pounds is a gre...

2006-06-02T19:02:00.000-04:00

Lurker here. One to one-and-a-half pounds is a great weight loss, and I'd hate to see you shoot for more. The slower you take off the weight, the longer you'll keep it off. The best example for your beautiful daughter will be a mother who is not only thin, but has a healthy relationship with food. No wacky diet will give you that relationship. I love WW, and would encourage you to go back - the point system has really helped me. I gave birth to my beautiful 9-month old at 200 pounds, and am now 145. My goal is the same as yours - show my son how to be healthy by being that way myself. Healthy isn't just thin, it's making good choices. Wanting to lose more than is healthy each week might not be such a great choice. You know? I know you can do this, the way you've handled everything else that's come your way.

Sincerely,
Leah

Oh Bee, please stop being so hard on yourself. We...

2006-06-02T13:45:00.000-04:00

Oh Bee, please stop being so hard on yourself. We lost a baby to a NTD more serious than Spina Bifida. NTD's occur at about 6 weeks gestation. Taking vitamins or not, tea, etc. didn't make any difference after that. I know you took very good care of yourself and the baby. As for the Irish descent, yes there is a genetic connection. I don't remember where you live, but once families are in the U.S. for a few generations, the rates become the same as everyone else. Maybe you should consider seeing a genetic counselor? She was a huge help to us, we learned so much, and it relieved the guilt. Jill